Hi Friends, When Charlie was newly born and we were getting gifts after the funeral, we got a few that were not tangible. They were really wonderful, too! For instance, one person bought a star in his name, so we got a certificate and a star map to show us where it is (it’s a
Category: death
No Smash Cake!
Hi Friends, Charlie’s party went beautifully. On Saturday night, hubby was working overnight, so I was alone in the house. I’d been doing ok, knitting and watching movies, but once I started getting ready for bed, it hit me that it was Father’s Day (it was past midnight), which was the day Charlie was born
Learning and Growing
This is a tree in the cemetery. I don’t know what kind it is. Dear friends, I recently learned a phrase that I find beautiful, and really hits the nail on the head. Have you ever noticed how, in English, we have no real, common word for a parent who has lost a child? We
Happy Birthday, Little Charlie
Hi Friends, I am doing something very difficult right now. On June 19th, 2017, it will be exactly one year since our son Charlie was born. Stillborn. Died. Was baptised. Everything. His whole life. And I am planning a party. Well, not exactly a party. What would you call it? A get-together? A memorial picnic?
Book Review: Beyond the Sling, by Mayim Bialik
Hi Friends of all stripes, I’m currently reading a book. A real book, with hardly any pictures! One of the things I’ve noticed on my grief journey is that I am having a much harder time reading than I expected. This is very odd for me, given that I used to read constantly, and fly
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A Little Bit of Magic in this Dreary World
Hi Friends, Today I want to talk about how I see my Charlie act in the world. I have noticed, over the weeks and months of connecting to other loss-mamas and loss-papas, that an element of grief seems to be a higher tendency to “magical thinking”. Bear with me while I explain! To have “magical”
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Mother’s Day
Hi Friends, Mother’s Day fast approacheth, and you might guess that this is going to be a bit of a challenging weekend for me. Not only with Mother’s Day, but there are multiple other activities not related to that (birthdays, concerts, and such) that are making it busy too. I’m nervous. My family has never
The Adventures of Pookie – Welcome!
Hi Friends! I believe I’ve mentioned our bear before, but I wanted to give you the whole story. Last fall, I found out about a program called Molly Bears (www.mollybears.org). This organization makes teddy bears that are the exact same weight as the baby you lost (there are some other organizations that make weighted bears
Infant Loss Resources
Hi Friends, I realized the link to the resource spreadsheet was long and cumbersome. So I created a short-link that still gets you there! Please share freely with anyone who needs it.www.tinyurl.com/infantloss Most sincerely yours,~ Sarah
What Do I Say?
**** THIS IS MY OWN EXPERIENCE AND BASED ON MY OWN PREFERENCES **** Dear Friends, You are in a conversation, and somehow it comes up that the person you are talking to has just recently had a close family member die. Ooof, that’s terrible. Furthermore, let’s say that it was their child. What do you