Gardening with Pookie

(topic: gardening at a grave) Dear Friends, Several weeks ago, Pookie and I had a fun little adventure! What a fine looking garden! Still though, could always use a little touch-up. Cute gardener to the rescue! Goodness, gardening in a waistcoat? How dapper! Look at him go! The drop-cloth in the foreground is under the

A Little Bit of Embroidery

(topic: embroidery, designs) Dear friends, Recently I got my mother a dishtowel as a gift, but when she unpacked it, realized it was twice the size she usually uses! Easy to fix: most of the towel was blank, so I just cut it in half, and hemmed the edges. Voilá: the part with the design

To Buy or Not To Buy, That is the Question

(topic: grief vs. preparing for a next child) http://www.gracobaby.com/en-US/Traditional-Playards/travel-lite%3Csup%3E-reg%3B%3C-sup%3E-crib-with-stages I don’t know if you have heard, but all of the Toys R Us and Babies R Us locations in the US are closing. I’m not sure what the long range effect will be, but the short term effect is that they have sales and discounts

Look at all the babies

(Topic: Grief vs. other people’s pregnancies/babies) Dear Friends, Lately, I feel like every single person I know is having a baby – including about half my grief group members, local friends, Facebook friends, and even our favorite waitress at the diner we go to every week. This, itself, has been hard for me, but then

Mother’s Day 2018

(Topic: Grief vs. holidays) Hi Friends, Today is the day before Mother’s Day, and I’m nervous. I’m nervous about being invisible, I’m nervous about being too visible, I’m nervous about doing it without kids, I’m nervous about crying, I’m nervous about being recognized in church and getting emotional. Invisible, because without a child in tow,

Pookie’s First Flight

[trigger warning: this post will discuss themes related to strong emotion, miscarriage, fear, and grief]  Dear Friends, Guess who just took his first airplane flight?!? [and probably his last… more on that later]. We recently took a trip to Boston, and this was the first time I’d flown with Pookie. Previously, all trips we’ve taken

Headwrapping and head covering – historically

(Topic: Historical Fashion) Hi Friends! A friend of mine recently started wearing headwraps, and I ended up trying them too, after someone suggested they may help with my anxiety (mixed results: once they are on, I at least perceived a certain amount of comfort from them, but getting them on sometimes was more stressful…). Well,